Is it good to have a marriage agreement？why?A marriage agreement is a contact which the parties enter into either before their marriage or shortly Most marriage agreements are drafted and signed well ahead of the parties' Marriage agreements are usually intended to deal with the legal issues that will arise if the marriage breaks down， but they can also deal with how certain day-to-day issues during the marriage are to be handledA marriage agreement can address any number of subjects， and deal with anything that's a concern to one or both Typical subjects include the • How will the spouses share assets during the marriage? • How will the spouses divide their property after the marriage? Will there be any division of property at all? Will a spouse receive a fixed share， or a share that increases as time goes on? • Will the spouses share in the value or cost of assets bought during the marriage， like a car or a house? • Will the parties have a share in assets brought into the marriage by one of the spouses? • How will unexpected windfalls， like inheritances， be dealt with? Will they be shared or kept separate? • How will household chores be shared during the marriage? • How will household expenses be paid for during the marriage? • How will the spouses manage retirement savings during the marriage? • How will the children brought into the marriage from another relationship be dealt with after the marriage? • How will children born during the marriage be cared for after the marriage? The possible subjects of a marriage agreement are limited only by imagination， common sense and the law of So， it is good to have a marriage agreement? Well， my answer is yes and I think a marriage agreement is a good idea only when: one or both of the parties have a substantial amount of property or assets going into the marriage; one of the parties expect to acquire substantial assets during the marriage through， for example， an inheritance， a settlement or court award， or a gift; the parties want to avoid the stress， grief and anger that can come after a relationship breaks down by deciding in advance how certain difficult issues， like the division of family assets， will be dealt with; one or both of the parties has been married before and experienced an ugly court battle; one or both of the parties will be bringing children from a previous relationship into the marriage; or， one of the parties is entering the marriage with substantial In most cases， people generally want to protect the property that they're bringing into the marriage and avoid the Marriage Act's presumption that all assets ought to be split equally between spouses when their marriage comes to an end; many people are looking for an "I'll keep what's mine， you'll keep what's yours" sort of The odd thing about this is that the court may make an order dividing assets that's different than what a marriage agreement calls for if the agreement is found to be unfair under the A As a result， a good marriage agreement will allow a spouse to "earn" an increasing share of the other spouse's property the longer the marriage In many agreements， a spouse will earn an equal or near-equal share of the assets by the ten or fifteen year You don't wind up with an "I'll keep what's mine， you'll keep what's yours" deal after However， a marriage agreement may not be appropriate when: neither party has any significant assets; neither party has any significant debts; both parties are relatively young and intend to remain permanently married to each other; and， neither party is bringing a child into the marriage from another In circumstances like that， there really isn't much of a point to executing a marriage There aren't any kids to worry about and neither party has any assets to protect going into the What purpose will a marriage agreement serve?Marriage agreements are odd things anyway as they tend to lend a somewhat unpleasant and sometimes petty financial dimension to what ought to be a joyous If there's no reason to have one， don'What is important for a happy marriage?A happy marriage can be a bit hard to However， it doesn't have to be that There are many ways to make sure you remain as much in love with your spouse as when you first got Here are just a few suggestions I feel very important: 1) Spend private time Make a date at least once a week to do something as a Take a walk， play a game of cards， see a movie or go to the Just spend time with just the two of you， and get to know each other all over 2) Spend time Taking time for yourself to do the things that interest you will make you happier and more fulfilled， therefore making you easier to live with and more interesting to your 3) Be The detours you take in life can bring fun， excitement and adventure， and are easy to For example， skip church once in a while， and sleep Going to the zoo， but see a beach on the way? Stop and take a romantic walk Try to do at least one spontaneous activity together per week， and you'll be amazed at the new life your marriage 4) Have a journal in a prominent Write each other love notes about anything， including what you love about each other， memories of your first date， or a thank-you for completed chores or 5) Don't fight in front of other It embarrasses you both and undermines your It also may prevent you from being completely If issues come up while company is present， either go into a separate room to talk， or agree to discuss the issues 6) T Remember in the early stages of your relationship when you couldn't keep your hands off of one another? Do that again， and marvel at how good it 7) L Talk to one another about everything and Ask about your spouse's day， and listen to the Ask how your spouse feels， and tell him/her how you Respect each other's Make sure you understand what is being said by clarifying 8) Don't insult or make fun of your spouse's relatives or Even if it's just in fun， these comments can hurt your spouse and your 9) Don't go to bed Although there may be times when sleep is more important than making up， try to go to bed on a good note by saying something like， "I'm still angry about this issue， but I'm tired and want to go to I'd like to talk about this I still love I will always love you， and I'm glad we are " 10) Give your spouse the benefit of the For example， if he is late getting home， assume that he is stuck in traffic and cannot get to a phone， not that he is merely being 11) Remember the big If your spouse irritates you， think， "Is this going to matter in a few hours? Do I really want to make a major issue out of this， or is this something I can live with?"Well， it can go on and on of course， just like a list I came across titled: “48 Tips to a Happy Marriage” I thought that they are worth mentioning and maybe worth I wonder how much of these are followed by couples in our society and do they find them relevant and applicable?Since I am still single; I will comment about each one from my own perspective and state what I think about it; by that; I am not dictating or promoting anything， I am just thinking in the form of The list goes as follows; if you become bored while going through them， stop and come back later because I found them very interesting and I am hoping you will do too: Start each day with a kiss ~ I think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and Wear your wedding ring at all times ~ most couples do wear the ring， however; their reasons might vary， so as long as they think of it as a sign of their commitment to their spouses， then they are on the safe Date once a week ~ I believe this one is very healthy; maybe not as often as once a week， let’s say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don’t have to go somewhere fancy to have it， you get the idea， right? Accept differences ~ No one is However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship， hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one Be polite ~ Please， thank you， you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your Be gentle ~ a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse， being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough or they will find that comfort Give gifts ~ nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a Smile often ~ I would say: Smile Always because it is contagious and you are more likely to be smiled at when you show your teeth more often!! Touch ~ intimacy between married people is very important and touching is a means of communication that reflects closeness， connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark Talk about dreams ~ dreams of the future that is; if you don’t share your dreams with your spouse; then who? Select a song that can be “our song” ~ this sounds like a cliché， but it can be nice， don’t you think? Give back rubs ~ this means: be comforting both mentally and physically and if you don’t know how to give back rubs and massages; it is time to learn! Laugh together ~ laughter is like smiling and as they say: it is When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every Send a card for no reason ~ another cliché? Maybe， but everyone likes to receive a nice “I love you” or “I miss you” notes every once in a while; it does boost one’s ego， doesn’t it? Do what the other person wants before he or she asks ~ of course; you need to know your spouse so well to be able to do this I guess this comes with time as you grow to know each other but seek to get that knowledge; don’t assume that it will come to you! Listen ~ this could be the most important one ever， but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get Encourage ~ positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous! Do it his or her way ~ sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their Know his or her needs ~ what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern! Compliment twice a day ~ everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is It should not be literally twice but don’t be extreme by not giving at all or giving too much; just say something nice when you Fix the other person’s breakfast ~ it doesn’t have to be breakfast in bed though! Call during the day ~ but don’t over do it and be obsessed with calling him/ Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying “how are you doing?” Slow down ~ and don’t jump to conclusions; always give the benefit of the doubt and wait to hear them Cuddle ~ yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep Ask for each others’ opinion ~ absolutely; whose opinion would you seek if not your spouse’s? Your decisions will reflect both your lives and not only your own， so their opinion is important for you to make the right Show respect ~ all the time; whether you are alone or among Showing respect is more important than showing Welcome the other person home ~ show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them! Look your best ~ I understand that this is not easy to implement since we face different situations all day long， however; it does count that you make the effort to look your best every once in a while just for their sake and not only because you are going out or expecting guests， get the point? Wink at each other ~ another cliché? Probably， but it can be any other gesture like smiling their way across the room or dining table， or holding their hand for a minute， just anything that appeals to both of Celebrate birthdays in a big way ~ this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal Apologize ~ and don’t be too stubborn to admit that you made a mistake， because apologizing can clear things between you and allows you to move on from the conflict in a healthy Forgive ~ from the heart and not only in words; forgive them and mean Set up a romantic getaway ~ this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that! Ask， “What can I do to make you happier?” ~ in other words; communicate and keep it going， because one’s needs might change along the way， and what they used to like a couple of years ago might not be appealing to them now; so make sure you ask them what does make them happy and do Be positive ~ even when it is a negative era of your lives; always try to show the full half of the Be kind ~ and Be vulnerable ~ let those guards down and show your true Respond quickly to the other person’s request ~ show them that you are doing this because you care for them the Talk about your love ~ again; Always tell them as well as show them how much you love them and how happy you are because of having them in your Treat each others’ friends and relatives with courtesy ~ even if you don’t like their family and/or friends， you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that Send flowers every Valentine’s Day and anniversary ~ or just for the sake of it; flowers can say a lot on your Admit when wrong ~ don’t be too arrogant to say Be sensitive to each other’s sexual desires ~ more importantly; understand these desires and keep the communication Pray for each other daily ~ and do it from the Watch sunsets together ~ just share such moments together; it does not have to be sunset; it can be anything Say “I love you” frequently ~ don’t assume that they know you love them; everyone likes to hear it， so say it! End the day with a hug ~ show closeness and again; Seek outside help when needed ~ if you reach a point when you feel that you cannot solve the problem alone; seek the help of someone you both trust before giving up， or go for professional help as a last Never feel ashamed of that; seeking help is a lot better than giving up and doing your very best to solve your You owe it to yourself and to them to do Having a great marriage takes work from beginning to When the effort ends， the marriage might However， by following the above steps， the marriage has a much greater chance of
Money Is Not Everything Money and Morality Almost all material things here on earth can be bought with Money is a medium of exchange to acquire any services or material things that we want or For many people， money is They believe that having a lot of money can bring them to the satisfaction of which they have That's how powerful is It can control the mind of an 金钱不是万能的 金钱与道德 地球几乎所有的物质都可以用钱买到，钱是用来获得我们想要的服务或我们需要的物质的交换媒介。对很多人来说，钱就是一切，他们认为有钱就能实现他们一切的愿望。这就是人们常说的“金钱是万能的”。钱会控制人类的个性心理。 Many people， because of their obsession to have more money will do anything， even if they have to transfigure people into objects to acquire what they really That is why in our economy today， the rich become richer， and the poor become How sad it is to know that kind of 那些认为有钱就有一切的人们，只要能得到他们想要的东西，即使是把人变成的物体的事他们也会做。这也是为什么，在我们今天的经济社会，富人越来越富，穷人越来越穷。说法往往引向事实。 Money can be acquired in many Most people will work to earn Some will create a business to accumulate and increase the amount of money they In moments of desperation， most people would pawn their jewelry and other belongings to obtain instant Some of them would sell their properties and even their structured settlements in order for them to have available The worst thing of all is that a person would risk his own life and dignity by doing a criminal act only to have How ironic it They think of money as everything to their lives， but they are wrong， absolutely 赚钱的渠道有很多。大多数人做工作挣钱。一些人通过创业使他们的钱得到积累和增值。绝望的时候，他们大多会抵押他们所拥有的珠宝或财产来获得转瞬即逝的金钱。他们中的一些会卖掉他们的财产甚至是终身赔偿来换取现钱。更糟的是，有的人甚至不顾生命和尊严，走向犯罪道路，获取不义之财。多么讽刺啊。他们认为钱是他们生命中的一切，但是其实他们错了，绝对错了。 The reality that we should embrace is that we need money， but it does not follow that money is the only reason of our existence here on Money is important， but it is not There are many factors that can create fulfillment here on earth， not money They are our family， our friends， and even our new They can help us grow and reach our 我们应该接受的事实是，我们需要钱，但钱绝不是生存的唯一理由。钱很重要，即不能代表一切。除了钱，还有很多东西可以丰富我们的 生活。他们可以帮我们成长和达到目标。 Remember that money is only a material It is created for our convenience， but it should be used for It is created for us to control; it is not made to control Imagine a person has enough money to buy anything and everything that he wants， but can you imagine that with only that resource that such a person could be truly happy and fulfilled? 记住，钱只是一种物质而已。它是为了我们生活方便而生的，应该用于好的方面。它生来就是为我们控制的，而不是用来控制我们的。如果一个人有足够的钱来买任何他想要的东西，你觉得只有这钱一种东西的人能得到真正快乐和充实吗？ Money is good but loving it makes it We can work hard to earn more We can sell our properties and our other belongings to have money in Remember， we should work not only for the reason of receiving but also for the reason of Money is indeed important， but it is not 金钱虽好却不能做守财奴。我们可以通过努力工作赚钱。紧急时，我们可以卖掉我们的财产或其他所有物来换钱。但是，请铭记，我们工作不仅是为了得到，同时也是付出也是生活的意义。钱的确很重要，但是它不是万能的。
